Resources For Floods, Hurricanes, and Natural Disasters

If you are in Texas and are in need of immediate rescue: “The National Guard is being deployed to our Texas area. If you find yourself in a state of emergency. Call (281) 558-1742. ” Keep tabs on the most recent happenings with Hurricane Harvey and the rescue/recovery efforts currently happening with that with the… Continue reading Resources For Floods, Hurricanes, and Natural Disasters

“Support Needs” And Why That Makes More Sense To Me Than “High/Low Functioning” or “Mild/Severe”.

No system that attempts to place people into neat little boxes is going to be perfect…. But if we have to have a quick label to slap on someone (and let’s face it: human nature often compels us to do just that), if we must reduce the complexity of a person’s lived experiences and strengths and weaknesses and areas of difficulties and areas of triumphs and all of that to a digestible, comparable phrase, “support needs” seems like a step in a better direction — one that focuses on something we can do, something we can act upon, something that suggests that better days may be ahead with better supports. 

What I Would Have Missed If I Had Taken My Life In 2017

This year was NOT the year that Things Got Better (TM).

But had I given up on this year and on myself, I would have missed so, so much more than the pain.


I hope that you, too, stay to see what 2018 has to offer. I hope that 2018 brings you so much prosperity, so much love, so much splendor, so much happiness, and so much of everything that makes a year great. 

Happy New Year’s, Pecan Family! 

Forgiving Yourself For Not Being The Person You Wanted Yourself To Be

There’s beauty in me yet. Not because of what I’ve done, what I plan to do, or what I’m actually capable of doing, but because of what I am; a person, a human, a member of the human community. There’s beauty in you yet, too, as the human being that you are. Please don’t give up finding it and celebrating it.

On Being A “Real Adult”

I think what this post boils down to is what 99% of my writing boils down to; respect people.  Respect people who live in different household arrangements than you do. Respect people who require different levels of support than you do. Respect people who #adult differently than you do. Respect people. Believe in what they can be with those supports, but respect where they are right now. Don’t purposely make others feel inferior or unworthy. 

And that includes yourself. 

Most of all yourself. 

Your existence is valid, whatever that existence may look like. 

You are valid as the person–as the adult–you are, no matter what skills you do or don’t have and how self-sufficient you are or aren’t.